Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, but it’s tough to have fun if you’re experiencing sexual performance anxiety. We get a lot of questions from our fellow friends in our Facebook group who are having sexual problems with their partners. It is a real struggle that every man goes through. Since this is a very private matter that many of us hide from and are ashamed to talk about. We salute you brave men who are taking a stand and seeking advice, help and treatment. Even though some insult you and call you weak, you don’t despair and hideaway whilst your issues are still unresolved. Some ladies don’t understand the anxiety and struggle you go through to please them.
Sometimes the reason you can’t get it up might not be because you have an erectile dysfunction or that you need medication. Only the doctor can tell you that through diagnosis. You should always seek advice from a qualified medical doctor if you don’t understand what is happening. Emotions are involved too. Even though there is a popular saying that sex is only physical for men and emotional for women. That isn’t totally true. Let’s put it practically!
When you get an erection it happens both physically and emotionally. Physically yes you get hard or she gets excited. That is the physical part of it and when we come to the emotional. You feel eager to get inside her and she is also pulling you closer. Both your emotions are at play here. As a man you become anxious the moment you get inside her, and because you are feeling the pressure of not screwing up. You are most likely to automatically ejaculate within seconds of being inside of her. So now ask yourself this: Does this make you less of a man? Nope it doesn’t.
When your mind is too stressed out to focus on sex, your body can’t get excited either. Accusing if it’s her or you? By going to another partner doesn’t solve anything. So stop that thing you are doing of sleeping around testing which girl will be able to last longer with.
There are lots of different worries that you have that can lead to the performance problem you are facing. The number one romance killer is the fear that you won’t perform well in bed and satisfy your partner sexually. This one can cause you to get a weak erection or ejaculate early and when you are not confident with your body weight, it can lead you to poor performance. This one is popular at night clubs, women like to intimidate men by the sizes of their penis. When she tells you that you can’t handle her, automatically you start to worry that you won’t measure up. Since it is in your head, your erection will also not be as you intend it to be.
State of Mind
Your state of mind can have a big impact on your ability to get aroused. Even if you’re with someone who you find sexually appealing, worrying about whether you’ll be able to please your partner can make it impossible for you to do just that.
Stress can affect anyone hence not all your sexual performance need medical attention. You just need to deal with whatever is stressing you. Even guys who normally don’t have any trouble getting excited might not be able to get an erection when they’re overcome by sexual performance anxiety.
So what we are saying to you is don’t panic, assess the situation you are in. Try to relax when you are about to have sex. Find ways to stay focused and less anxious about performing well. And also don’t rush to take pills without seeing a medical doctor.
Men’s Clinic International deals with any sexual problems that are related to Weak Erections, Early Ejaculation, Low Libido, STIs or Circumcision. Get in touch with us to book a consultation with our professional doctors who specialise in Men’s Sexual Health.
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