The negative perception that the society sends about men and sex is often unfair and inaccurate. Men are portrayed as thoughtless sex maniacs. Society thinks, all men want is sex and nothing else matters. This really denies a large portion of men’s sexual realities, which includes their insecurities. For men to obtain sexual health it involves addressing insecurities, but, within a society that pretends men shouldn’t have any, even taking the first step of acknowledging them can be difficult.
It is this negative perception that is preventing a lot of men from seeking sexual health treatment from Mens Clinic International. We encourage men to face reality with acceptance. You need to accept that you have sexual health problems and seek treatment or change of lifestyle. Whatever you prefer to do, you just need to take action for your sexual well-being. Continue reading to learn about dealing with common sexual insecurities men have and some helpful tips for managing them.
Finishing immediately after starting?
A question almost every guy who is suffering from early ejaculation asks himself, “Why am I finishing too quick?” We blame porn as it has corrupted the minds of many men by telling them that sex should last an hour or more. This expectation is highly unrealistic, particularly if sexual activity is fairly consistent. Porn has a bunch of breaks in between and the scenes are not done in one day. So it’s advisable to not measure your sexual performance based on a porn scene you have watched. The average man only lasts for a few minutes of continual pumping. So if you last five minutes, that’s totally normal.
If you want to last longer and make your partner satisfied and happy, you need to extend playtime. Breaking up the pumping with position changes and by switching here and there to different activities, such as oral sex or using sex toys on a partner, may help make it last longer. The idea that men should be able to thrust away for a lengthy period of time is simply a misconception.
Taking too long to ejaculate?
Some men they don’t have the issue of finishing too quick. They have the opposite concern, which is taking too long to ejaculate. When a man is taking some time to ejaculate, there are two things he can try to decrease his anxiety: 1) Make sure his partner is enjoying the time, and 2) understand that orgasm doesn’t always have to be part of sex. Yes, sex can be intimate without the need to ejaculate. So don’t beat yourself up if you couldn’t ejaculate at that time. Just don’t make a habit out of it. The reason being, sometimes, a man may simply grow exhausted during sex. If it’s been a particularly lengthy or rough session, his manhood may be getting tender. This type of discomfort could hold back ejaculation. And that’s okay, you don’t need to stress or worry.
Getting tired too quickly?
Sex is a physical and very tiring activity that can reveal how healthy you are. When a man is in charge of most of the muscle work during sex and starts to grow tired, there’s no shame in taking a rest or asking the partner to get on top for a bit. It is generally advisable to maintain good muscular and cardiovascular health. You don’t only have to be healthy and fit just so you can live longer. Sex also requires you to be fit for the occasion. If a man is panting uncontrollably and trembling after a minute of moderate physical activity, he should take it as a sign that he needs to improve his health.
Not sure if your partner is enjoying it?
A lot of men have the tendency to ask themselves instead of their partners, questions that end up making them feel like they didn’t do a great job. A huge favor men can do themselves is to turn questions like “is she enjoying it?” And “Am I doing it right?” into “do you like this?” and “What would you like me to do?” Take the mystery out and give her what she wants by asking what that is. It will make things easy for the both of you and you will enjoy each other as you managed to satisfy all your needs.
Is my penis big enough?
Unless a man has a very tiny penis or a medical condition in which the penis size negatively impacts his ability to have sex. his penis should big enough to get the job done.
The above sexual insecurities can hold a man back in his sex life, and a couple back from having the most fulfilling sex possible. What’s more, sex is good for the health of the penis. You need to seek medical treatment for sexual health problems you might be experiencing which are causing distress in your relationship.
Men’s Clinic International deals with any sexual problems that are related to Weak Erections, Early Ejaculation, Low Libido, STIs or Circumcision. Get in touch with us to book a consultation with our professional doctors who specialise in Men’s Sexual Health.
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