If a man falls asleep immediately after an intimate moment with a partner, the partner shouldn’t take it as an insult. Men fall asleep after sex for several reasons. None of these reasons are related to your relationship, personality, or performance in bed.
The act frequently takes place at night, in a bed, and is, after all, physically exhausting (often more so for the man than the woman, although this certainly varies). So when sex is over, it’s natural for a guy to feel sleepy. Read on to find out some of the real reasons why men fall asleep after sex.
Orgasm and energy play a role
A man’s body chemistry changes after orgasm. The biochemical prolactin is released, physically altering his body and making him very tired. In contrast, women may not orgasm every time they have sex. So, after rocking your lover’s world, you may still be semi-aroused and have the energy to talk about love and life while he’s drifting off to dreamland.
It is thought that exertion during sex and after climax depletes the muscles of energy-producing glycogen. This leaves men feeling sleepy. Since men have more muscle mass than women, men become more tired after sex.
Although there is little direct evidence to explain men falling asleep, though, after orgasm, the chemicals oxytocin, prolactin, gamma amino butyric acid (GABA) and endorphins all contribute to that “roll over and snore” feeling. These chemicals and endorphins are part of what happens to your brain when you have sex.
What happens to your brain when you have sex?
Tantric sex focuses on the enlightening, spiritual aspects of sex. The merging of two bodies is a sacred act that increases awareness by channeling energy and lifting the couple to a different plane. Sex and orgasm is the pinnacle of spiritual awareness and represents the unification of male and female energy.
Since a man’s orgasm is external, it causes the loss of that energy (through ejaculation). This loss of energy is also associated with a decrease in activation through the prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex switches off post-orgasm. Consequently men might get sleepy because this part of the brain involves consciousness, alertness, and mental activity. In contrast, a woman’s orgasm is an internal explosion of energy. Since she doesn’t experience that same outward loss of energy, she’s ready to cuddle for hours.
Why your partner wants to cuddle or talk after sex
Women like to ‘process’ their experiences, hence the desire to talk after sex.” Communication tends to be easier and more natural for women. If a man isn’t a great communicator at the best of times, he’ll be even less likely to engage in a heart-to-heart when he’s flat on his back.
Cuddling after sex helps to reinforce intimacy, attachment, and an overall sense of connection and commitment. Studies show that the partners of people who fall asleep right after sex have a greater desire for more bonding and affection no matter who falls asleep after sex. One of the things sex therapists wish you knew is the importance of finding ways to bond after sex to strengthen your whole relationship.
To increase the cuddles after sex:
- Initiate a love fest before eating breakfast, lunch, or dinner (he may be less likely to fall asleep if he’s hungry). Then, bond over scrambled eggs or a dinner meal.
- Do the wild thing early in the evening, such as before his favorite TV show. Avoid having sex late at night if you are sleepy.
- Compromise on a predetermined amount of time to cuddle after sex. If you want to talk for 30 minutes and he only wants to give you five, meet somewhere in the middle: say, 15 minutes.
Both men and women usually feel relaxed, warm, content, and sleepy after sex. It should be noted that not all men fall asleep after sex. Some do enjoy cuddling or talking afterward and sometimes it’s the female partner who falls asleep first.
If he does keep marching off to the land of nod every time you have sex, remember that sleepiness doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is weak or that he doesn’t love you. On the contrary, it may actually prove happiness and satisfaction.
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